If you hire a new lawyer, it would depend on you and the attorney to start over or pick up where the previous one left off. As to locating a mediator, is there someone with counseling experience both you and your spouse trust? A minister or priest from a church you attend? If you and your spouse can agree on a mediator, neither of you need the attorneys' consent. It's advisable to have their consent of course, but its not required to obtain a mediator.
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